How do you SEE it? A Mindset Journey

I began 2018 with high hopes. Anything could be better than 2017. That year is what most would call “rough”, “hard” etc..  My family experienced several deaths. I attended 7 funerals including my grandmother and uncle. At the time, I termed it a tough year. A year I didn’t want to experience again. You know how it is….some years you could repeat they were so fun, and others….tough, hard and no sense in repeating or reliving in the mind.

I approached 2018 with hope, a vision, a future I was excited to create. 2018 was not what I expected and as I look back and reflect on 2018, I see that it was my mindset that truly saved me and completely transformed my year.

As I look back at 2018, it is not the challenges I see, but, the grace, beauty, love, courage, commitment, compassion, faith, forgiveness and complete and total surrender. All wrapped up in Gratitude.

I realize, that most would look upon the year I just experienced and see it as challenging, hard, tough, yucky, and one not to be repeated.

The beautiful, most exquisite thing is….it is based solely on perception. I choose, just as you choose, how to see the experiences in life.

My father had a 2^nd hip replacement surgery January of 2018, 2 weeks later, sepsis stepped in. My father went from a man of 79 years and NO health issues, to a man who was fighting for his life. We almost lost him. If it hadn’t been for HIS mindset and HIS strength of will, this story would be different.

He was hospitalized for 5 months and experienced 11 surgeries over the course of one year (2018).

During this same time, my youngest son was hospitalized the day before Mother’s Day with symptoms that were leading to a diabetic coma. He was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes that weekend at the age of 25.

Along with all that, life happens, business goes on, and personal growth is an opportunity to excel at and thrive OR suppress and save for another day.

I chose to EXCEL and THRIVE.

Here is what I did:

Through all these experiences of 2018 I showed up differently. I didn’t show up as the anxiety ridden girl who fears all. As most of you know, over the course of 18 years I have been on a quest. A quest for freedom from anxiety, fear, jealousy, anger….all the emotions that create disturbances in the deepest parts of the soul.

The last 2 years challenged me, and I look back and see that I am Victorious.

We are meant to live FREE, embraced by and engaged in LOVE.
In 2018 I soaked up the nuggets of Love, Courage, Commitment, Compassion, Faith, Forgiveness, Surrender and Gratitude.

These 9 sacred metabolizers were the foundation of my childhood. I have cultivated and nourished them during the wise years of becoming a queen, a woman of faith, a woman who stands firm in her own footprint. In 2018, those sacred metabolizers, sprouted fruit in my life.

I am so grateful for all the trials and tribulations 2017 and 2018 brought. No, it wasn’t “fun”, No, I don’t want to experience it again, BUT, oh yes…I wouldn’t trade the experiences and gifts that were gleaned for anything in the world.

You see, so many beautiful and wonderful things happened.

The relationship with my Daddy elevated.

The relationship with my Mama, elevated.

The relationship among the sibs, elevated.

The relationship with my sweet family, elevated.

My coaching practice, elevated.

I launched a corporate speaking business.

I created a Mindset training that elevates all who participate.

We, the BIG family, ended the year celebrating life in Maui, ALL TOGETHER (34 of us).

I see now, so clearly, what I am creating, among my family, my friends, my practice, and my business…..

LOVE ~ CONNECTION ~LEGACY

That is truly what life, my life, is all about.

What is your life about? Are you ready to transform it and LIVE FREE? FREE from the STRUGGLE of negative thinking – FREE from the STRUGGLE of sabotaging behavior – FREE from the STRUGGLE of pain?

This year I have 3 offerings to help guide and support you on your journey to living FREE. Free with love for self, love for your physical and spiritual body.  It is a soulful journey; One that transforms your mind, your heart, and your emotions.

Engage with me! 💛

I look forward to seeing you shine 🌟

Ashly

One to one Coaching

This is the place to transform your mind, heart, and emotions so they are in alignment with your purpose, your reason for being. Fears stop us from being free. Fear saturates the life with eating issues and behaviors, body hate, emotional disturbances felt through anxiety, the fear of not being good enough, a closed mindset believing that nothing good ever happens.

Make the final shift, the shift towards freedom.

Learn how to:

• emotionally regulate disturbances caused by fear, anxiety, anger, jealousy, irritation, frustration, and worry
• create a rock-solid mindset that creates results in EVERY aspect of your life
• eliminate eating and exercise behaviors that sabotage your health

Finally, LIVE FREE!

One to one sessions are done via phone, facetime, or face to face. Click here for details.

Mindset BootCamp

Shift your mindset from toxic to vibrant. A toxic mindset set is low energy and stuck in the muck OR spinning out of control. In this course you will GAIN a vibrant mindset, one that is energetic and goal achieving.

• Acquire Balance so you get to the top and have FUN in your life.
• Break through barriers and experience consistent growth with easy follow up and follow through.
• Whatever you are bumping up against…we will get you to the next level.
• Physical health will shift, and you will have more energy and get things done easily.

This 4-week course lays the foundation for a Rock-Solid Mindset so that moving forward is the only direction you know. This program is delivered via zoom and the private Mindset Boot-Camp Facebook group.

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I look forward to experiencing life with you in 2019 🌟

Soulful Time Strategies

Soulful Time 1

This first practice is a mind-body connector. This brings the mind and body in sync with one another. Very important for those with anxiety issues.

My very first soulful time happened during the anxiety attacks I experienced in my twenties. This was no fun. And the feat of trying to get through each attack left me feeling exhausted, discouraged and alone.

So, I tried my hand at meditation. I did deep breathing with hatha yoga for 30-45 min then would lie down for meditation.

This was a beautiful time for me. I would envision a nature scene and invite in what ever and whom ever brought peace. Jesus, being the foundation of my childhood, would always be present. (For me, He represents safety, security, peace and strength).

This quiet time would last 30 min or so. You can shorten that if you like…however, when experiencing anxiety attacks, I wouldn’t want to leave this peaceful place.

Through this practice, my faith was strengthened, fear receded, and I became strong again.

Soulful Time 2

Scripture and Affirmations became the focal point of my Soulful Time

When living in fear, anxiety or any struggle, having words of wisdom memorized helps bring the mind-body OUT of fight or flight.

So, during Soulful Time I would recite a scripture or affirmation that I had memorized and meditate on it. Combined with deep, mono-focused breathing, I could feel the peace wash over me, faith affirm me, and strength within me.

Here are a few of the scriptures and affirmations I have memorized. Borrow these until you can find your own that resonate and speak to your soul.

Please note: some of these are my own, some from the Bible and some are from other wise souls that crossed my path during my journey to healing.

For God didn’t give me a spirit of timidity, but one of power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

Things always work out for me. Everything that I do prospers. I have abundance in Jesus name.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrew 11:1

Our perceptions return to us exactly what we perceive.

I trust that no matter what, I will be OK.

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire you will not be burned or scorched, nor with the flame kindle upon me. Isaiah 43:2

As I release the past, I allow the new, fresh and vital to enter. Life flows through me.

Speak truth and goodness into myself.

Cast all your anxiety on Him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

Live with a thankful heart.

It shall be done for you, as you have believed. Matthew 8:13

I am open and receptive to all that life brings me. Thank you life.

Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable; if anything is excellent of praiseworthy, think about such things…And the peace of God will be with you. Phillipians 4:8

I let go of old limitations and beliefs. I let go and I am at peace.

There are so many more …. Enjoy these. I hope they bless you and your life.

Soulful Time 3

Find a daily reader that inspires you.

The first daily reader I used for this purpose was Jesus is Calling. I LOVED this time that I spent each morning in meditation and prayer that was brought on by the wisdom I received from this daily reader.

There are many written that bring inspiration, peace and healing. Find one that resonates with you. Read the daily wisdom, quiet the mind, breathe, then mono focus on the meaning it has for you and how you can apply it this day.

Soulful Time is such an important tool to utilize for your success in every aspect of your life. Tune in to this poem I wrote regarding Soulful Time and pickup some more ideas of what Soulful Time can look like for you.

Soulful Time

Soulful time is quiet time.

Several moments put together to bring calm, serenity and peace

within your very soul.

The soul is our heart, mind and emotions.

Living with these 3 in balance

Or rather harmony;

You gain a wondrous life.

A life filled with love

Calm

Certainty

and, Centeredness.

You will know who you are

What you want

And that your value and worth are priceless.

So, why do we avoid these wondrous things?

It all comes down to worth.

Or maybe effort

But why wouldn’t we put forth effort towards something so divine?

FEAR.

That’s it…FEAR

What if by experiencing soulful time each day, you became

Calm, Centered, Certain?

You would be admired, respected, loved.

Could you handle that?

Do you believe that’s possible?

Does it scare you that it would happen, and you wouldn’t know how to handle it?

Or that you deserve it?

You see, it does all boil down to FEAR.

False Evidence Appearing Real.

Because, none of that is real.

They are imaginings.

Be aware that this scares you.

Accept that this scares you.

Then move on to experience…. Soulful Time.

Soulful Time Process

Do you feel nourished all over? 3 ways to get nourished

Are you truly nourished? Nourishment means: that which sustains us. Take a breath and think about that for a moment. Reflect on your life…. what brings nourishment to you? We have spoken about pleasure, but what of nourishment?

When on a journey, like the one we are on, it is important to look at Nourishment. Are you receiving nourishment.

As you have heard me say, only 2% of those that go on a diet to lose weight keep the weight off after 2 years.

That inability to keep the weight off is due in part to a LACK of nourishment. And it isn’t the nourishment we get from food that I am talking about.

What fuels your SOUL? What feeds the very essence of you?

When we rely solely on the tongue to gauge our nourishment, we become disconnected, not only to ourselves but our heavenly father as well.

When the tongue is the reader of nourishment we can feel restricted….because nothing seems to taste good anymore. The less you taste the more you eat. The result is a greater disconnect between body, soul and spirit.  You are all three, so caring for all three is a great responsibility.

The typical thought is “Food is the only form of nourishment available to us.” Which translates to “The tongue is the only way to receive nourishment.”

Both is these are untrue statements and beliefs.  When this much responsibility is put upon one part of the body, we become excessive, intense, or extreme in the way we live life and in the way we view life.

The needs of your tongue become the focus, and this results in becoming dis-embodied.

When there is this disconnect…pleasure, nourishment and embodiment cannot be present.

A way to eliminate this “feeling” of restriction is to look closely at the forms of Nourishment in your life.

“The experience of nourishment creates a physiologic relaxation response, which means a full and  healthy digestive, assimilation, and calorie burning power.”  Marc David

What sustains you?

What quality of time and self do you put into this?

1) Its a choice

Our greatest power is our power to choose. (great book, by the way 🙂 We can choose to receive nourishment or not…in the same way we choose to eat or not….we can choose to receive nourishment from more than just food.

Proclaim that you Choose to receive Nourishment from your relationship with your spouse, you choose to receive Nourishment from tending your herb garden, you choose to receive nourishment from the DAY.

It is truly just a choice. So, check in to life, and choose nourishment.

2) Observe

Observe your life and those in your life. What can you receive nourishment from? Who do you receive and give nourishment to? How can you change/shift your perspective about something or someone so that there is nourishment?

BE-ing in observation mode gets you IN your life. That is one of the first ways you will begin seeing, seeking, and receiving nourishment.

3) Get into it!

No matter what you are doing; tending  the flower garden, seeking the heart of God, self care rituals, breathing, stretching, conversations, connecting, BE ALL IN. Be with it. Be in it. Be ONE with it.

There is intimacy in nourishment. It is a moment where you can connect with self.

It is a way to support and sustain you; body, soul and spirit.

Nourishment defines not only the quality of the food we eat but most importantly the quality and EXPERIENCE of our life and how we interpret that life experience. We either receive nourishment OR we are checked out and oblivious to it. The first gives life, the second takes it away.

The more you are IN your body, there is a greater capacity in which your body can function optimally.

If this topic of nourishment and all its forms resonates with you, I highly recommend the book Nourishing Wisdom, by Marc David. Excellent read!

Is sustainable fat loss possible?

When I first began my journey in the Eating Psychology realm, I was looking for something to save me. My food life had become toxic. Not to mention, most of my clients experienced the same toxicity around eating. Something had to be done. I went on the search and came across this body of work that truly changed my life and the life of those I work with closely.

Having the background of Personal Fitness Training, most requests that I get are about losing fat. So, let’s go there. Losing fat is of high priority in the minds of women and men. In fact, just today there are almost 43 million articles written on Lose Fat Fast. I do believe this is of great importance for most.
But, the statistics show that 98% of those that seek out diets for weight loss actually gain all the weight back. How disappointing for those that want lasting results.

Have you asked yourself the question… “What could I do to bring weight loss results that last?”

When we step fully into what we want to attain, we tap into our greatest metabolizing power.

Get quiet for a moment and listen for an answer to be revealed.

I can pretty much guarantee that the answer is not going to be restrict more, exercise more, stop eating…Your body knows what it needs. All that needs to happen is to listen for the answer. It will surprise you.

Your next question may be… “How do I learn to do this?” “How do I learn what my body needs to eat?”

In the TruHealth + Eating Psychology Coaching 90 day challenge, this will be revealed to you.

Wouldn’t it be great to understand and know your dietary needs, exercise needs and the soulful lessons along the way that truly make a difference with sustainable weight loss. In this case, fat loss.

Metabolizing power comes from operating in parasympathetic dominance, oxygen, being with what is, awareness, slow, intentional,  managing energy. Our body is made to THRIVE!

Are you ready for your body to thrive?

Join me July 1st, 2017 for the TruHealth + Eating Psychology Coaching 90 Day Challenge.

The TruHealth System is my go-to when clients want to lose fat.  Mannatech TRUHealth System

This is the key to unlock the cage to your food and body struggles. Ready?

See you in the Challenge!

Ashly