What’s Keeping You Stuck?

This is Star. You have probably seen her around my FaceBook page. Love my Star!

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Comfortable Fear

Before you freak out and get all concerned…she is fine! This picture was taken last summer. She had an anxiety attack out in the heat and had to hole up in an oxygen tank for a little while.
It was REALLY scary!

But all is well.

Isn’t that how life happens. We have experiences that make us hole up in safety, in fear for our life. Then we get stuck there. It feels safe, so, we don’t want to leave. But we can’t deny the fact that it is fear that is keeping us there.

Fear gets you stuck …. AND …. Fear keeps you there.

Sometimes I wish I could be more like Star. Once this past…she was great. She got right out of her “stuck-ness” and continued on, as if nothing happened.

What is keeping you stuck?

Stuck-ness happens when we don’t know what step to take next. Whether it is diet related, health related, relationships, business, finances, it all boils down to fear.

I let fear RULE my life for many years…. It is hard to live IN JOY when fear is a part of every fiber of your being.

What is fear?

False Evidence Appearing Real? We make up stories and then live as if they are true. We bring them to life…. for some reason…(human flaw)… this makes us more comfortable. BECAUSE then we know the outcome. No fault can be fall us when we are “right”.

Comfortable. That is a strange word when it is in correlation with FEAR. How can we continue to live in Comfortable Fear? They are opposites and yet we live them together, day in and day out.

I want AND desire to live Comfortable Peace; with food, my body relationship, the relationship I have with myself, my familial relations, my friends, my business, my finances.

How do we make this change? This shift? I think that is the most important question.

AWARENESS is the answer.

Fear is living in a future that doesn’t exist. Awareness is living in the present.

Let’s apply this to over-eating. That is a very common struggle among the women and men that I work with.

Over-eating evolves from tight control or lack of control, it is really a fear that I won’t be able to stop eating. “I’ve got to have the whole thing…it tastes so good and I may not have the opportunity to eat it again any time soon.”

It is also the fear of being present…not wanting to acknowledge that you are eating so you don’t have to “count” it as eating.

You are exactly right…. The physical body or more specifically the digestive system doesn’t know food is being eaten when you are CHECKED OUT. Food isn’t registered by the head brain OR the gut brain. Overeating, a belly ache, and increased body weight are the results.

The typical response to this is a sense of failure and “why even try” attitude (Comfortable Fear)

That is a lie. We tell ourselves a lie because we are IN fear. Fear that “what if we are right” “What if I can NEVER stop eating too much, what if I go on a diet to only gain it back, What if, What if, What if.”  We could “what if” ourselves to death. We might as well go ahead and admit it, right?

What if we applied this same line of thinking with relationships. What is keeping you stuck in your relationships? Fear of being accepted for who you really are? For standing in confidence on an important issue when others look at you like you are crazy? So you withdraw and turn inward for self-preservation? Which keeps you alone. And proves you right (Comfortable Fear).

So why get out there and pursue a healthy relationship with food or people? Comfortable Fear is …. comfortable…. safe…. easy…. and sad to say but USEFUL.

It provides the excuse of WHY maintaining a healthy body weight is unsuccessful, or WHY nourishing friendships or business or finances are stunted in growth.

Comfortable Fear is something we CREATE and utilize to keep us from living the life we were intended to live in a body we love…. because Comfortable Peace is too hard…it requires too much.

So, let me ask the question again:

What is keeping you stuck?

I’m going to be honest and in “in your face” for a moment.

It is…..

Y-O-U

You and the Comfortable Fear YOU CREATE.  DO you LIKE it? Do you like living this way?

Is it giving you EXACTLY what you have dreamed of?

So, what is it going to be?

Do you want to CREATE a lovely life living in a lovely body?

Then CHOOSE Comfortable Peace.

Comfortable Peace is:

Standing firm in your own footprint

Operating with ease and grace – with the choices you make around food, your body and your life.

Appreciating your OWN uniqueness

Believing in WHO you are and what you provide to this world

Living in a state of gratitude…with EVERYTHING – even the challenges – There is a valuable message in all experiences.

Living in AWARENESS – being present in the here and now.

BE-ing in alignment with your Truth

You know what to do next. You simply take the next step into Comfortable Peace.

Because Comfortable Fear hasn’t brought life’s desires to you. Why not try something new?

Comfortable Peace

 

Ashly Torian is an expert in the fields of eating psychology, mind body nutrition and fitness. She serves women and men that struggle with food and body issues. She holds the key that unlocks the  cage and opens the doorway to freedom from these struggles so they never have to experience them again.

 

If you want to know more about living in Comfortable Peace, visit my website or contact me directly.

Sweet FUN Star

Living in Comfortable Peace

 

 

Water, what is the big deal about Water?

Water intake is as necessary as the air we breathe.  If you haven’t formed a water drinking habit; there is no time like the present to start.  Water lubricates the joints, boosts energy, keeps you regular, burns fat and it supplies minerals to vital organs via the bloodstream.

Keep in mind that if you do not take in enough water, your body cannot filter itself (toxicity occurs) and this keeps the liver from its primary function of converting fat into energy. OH MY!  Non-metabolized fat gets stored and no fat loss occurs.  Do I need to repeat that?

FAT that is not metabolized due to dehydration, gets stored and no fat loss occurs. I would say that is a GREAT reason to drink water throughout the day, wouldn’t you?

So, the big question is… how much water intake is best on a daily basis?

Studies show that the human body needs at least 2 liters a day, that is 64 oz.  Further studies show that the average adult body usually loses 2.4 liters of fluid a day, so your body just becomes hydrated when drinking 2 liters.

“Just becoming hydrated” does not solve dehydration issues;  my recommendation is to drink, at the minimum, 3 liters a day. Go buy yourself a fun, pretty, glass container that will hold 1 liter (approx.. 33 oz) fill it up 3x during the day.  Drink 1 in the morning, 1 in the afternoon, and 1 in the evening.  When you think you might be hungry, drink water instead.  More often than not the body is asking for water not food.

Interested in learning more? Take a look at this Water Trivia:

  1. 75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated. Which means 75% of Americans are storing unnecessary fat. YIKES! That is an easy “fix”.
  1. In 37% of Americans, the thirst mechanism is so weak that it is often mistaken for hunger. When was the last time you felt like you needed energy and reached for food? Typically, if you are feeling fatigued, hydration is what is needed. Drink 8 ounces of water and feel the difference.
  1. Even MILD dehydration will slow down one’s metabolism as much as 3%. If fat loss is your goal, then a speedy metabolism is what is desired, not a sluggish metabolism. Drink more water and metabolism will increase.
  1. One glass of water will shut down midnight hunger pangs for almost 100% of the dieters studied in a U-Washington study. Are you a late night eater? Drink a full glass of water when you feel the pangs coming on, most likely the hunger will slip away.
  1. Lack of water, the #1 trigger of daytime fatigue. YES! Drink from your water bottle instead to get your afternoon boost. No need for caffeine…your body needs water!
  1. Preliminary research indicates that 8-10 glasses of water a day could significantly ease back and joint pain for up to 80% of sufferers. Hydration keeps the joints lubricated and can drastically reduce joint pain.
  1. A mere 2% drop in body water can trigger fuzzy short-term memory, trouble with basic math, and difficulty focusing on the computer screen or on a printed page. OUCH! When was the last time you experienced fuzzy thinking? Did you drink some water or did you push through it and ignore the symptom?
  1. Drinking 5 glasses of water daily decreases the risk of colon cancer by 45%, plus it can slash the risk of breast cancer by 79%, and one is 50% less likely to develop bladder cancer. Again, I recommend at least 96 ounces of water a day to side step many health issues.

All of these are symptoms of dehydration…are you listening to your body? Or are you ignoring the signals and pushing through? If you are pushing through, your body will physically begin to suffer.

This is your transportation system. Take care and hydrate – hydrate – hydrate! You will be amazed at how extremely good you feel!

 

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