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Help! My hand is stuck in the cookie jar

  • At February 18, 2017
  • By admin
  • In awareness, Energy, Power
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Sometimes we just need permission!

Women come to me for the answer of how to stop eating “bad” foods. How to stay on course and not get swept off track with the next round of emotional eating.

The big question is “Why do I give in? What gave these foods this much power over me?” “Why can’t I eat ‘perfectly’?”

That is what it feels like, isn’t? The food is lording over you and telling you to eat or else….!!!

fat loss, weight loss, diet, exercise, eating, food, habits, cookie, jar, Think back to when you were a young child and you would ask your mama if you could have a cookie from the cookie jar and she said “no, not right now” what happens with your desire for that cookie? It increases doesn’t it. The desire and the need are so great that you think you might die if you don’t get it right now.

So what do you do as that young child. You find every possible way and reason to pass through the kitchen without mom hearing you, lifting the lid off the cookie jar as quietly as possible and then eat that cookie as fast as you can so no one sees; but then you want another and another because you didn’t enjoy it like you thought you would. You need more to fulfill that desire you had for the cookie.

The same is true as we age into adult-hood. When we are told, we can’t have something, or better yet, when a diet restricts or you hear repeatedly how “bad” a food is for you, YOU WANT MORE OF IT, don’t you?

I have a solution for you that is so easy to say but difficult to do. But first I want to clarify something that is extremely important, especially if you will receive the suggestion I have regarding the power of the cookie jar.

Here it is: there is not a food on planet earth that is “bad”, or a diet that is “perfect”, food has no moral value, right? The food you are eating is not bad…it is just less nutrient dense than what you prefer or what the eating protocol you are on is asking for.  Let that sink in for a moment. No food is bad. Food is Food.

Secondly, food has no power except the power we give it. This power comes from lack of awareness for the body, for digestion and really a lack of consideration, compassion and care for one self.

Once you can wrap your brain around those two, now you are ready for the cookie jar solution.

Here it is: Give yourself permission.

Sounds too easy?

Hang with me for a minute….

If someone gave you permission to eat a whole jar of cookies, would you do it? NO, you wouldn’t. Why? The resistance is taken away. When resistance is present, it creates a desire for the forbidden.eating, eat, exercise, fat loss, weight loss, dieting, food, water, engage, permission, freedom,

This resistance goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden. Adam and Eve didn’t think about not being able to eat from the tree of knowledge, they were perfectly happy eating from the other trees that provided nourishment until it was pointed out, evilly I might add, that this tree was forbidden. It was like dangling a carrot in front of a donkey.  That is when resistance kicked in and they wanted more.

When told that getting a cookie from the cookie jar is forbidden…the desire for it becomes that much stronger.

Instead, give yourself permission to eat the “forbidden” food occasionally. The time frame is strictly up to you, based on your health needs and the needs of your body.

Next, use my favorite food permission quote, “I can have it anytime I want, I just don’t want it right now.”

This frees you to make a nourishing choice for mealtime or snack time instead of reacting to an emotional need in the moment. That sidesteps you away from your good intentions; the reaction to the emotional need in the moment. Whereas, when you give yourself permission to have it anytime you want, self-love and compassion included, the reaction to the emotion won’t lead to food. In fact, if you allow that need to roll through you…just sit with the emotion for a moment, be present filled, the desire for the food has a better chance of passing you right by.

Now, wouldn’t that be wonderful?

It is only a shift in your perception and belief about food. One, it isn’t ‘bad’, it is just food. Two, simply give yourself permission AND/OR feel the emotion. Both will allow the moment to pass without partaking in an emotional binge or unaware eating.

If this philosophy resonates with you..check out my other blogs AND join us for Engage and Experience Freedom Group Coaching Program.

The 1 Thing You Can Do to Get Your Energy Back

  • At January 17, 2017
  • By admin
  • In awareness, Energy, Power, Uncategorized
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Would you LOVE to have all the energy you need to get EVERYTHING done that you want to get done? YES! Me Too! Today’s blog is on this topic of eating and dieting  and what we do that comes natural and steals our energy from the important things in our life. What comes natural to us is to attack weight loss in the form of restriction, going on a diet that requires weighing or measuring food, logging details of what you eat so you get an instant read on if you are doing “good” or “bad”.

How are you doing so far, this year?

This process is crazy, really.

When you think about it,

Every waking moment is centered around food

How much

What kind

Ooh that’s too much…

Ohh I’m still so hungry!

When is the next time I get to eat?

I wonder if it will really make a difference if I eat this cookie…

…or 3 or …….

I will just have to run (bike or drill myself to death) to burn them off

I will be ok

I still have 6 weeks…

I’ve got plenty of time.

YIKES!

Does this sound familiar?

Why do we spend so much energy around what, when, how much and so on?

Total WASTE of energy.

And to take this to the next level…

Why do you think most people “cheat” on a “diet”?

ENERGY…the lack of it.

Really, it truly does.

There is a ton of evidence out there that tells us the decisions that we make are directly affected by our level of stress and exhaustion.

The human brain expends so much energy trying to help you logically deal with this issue of food, the brain gets tired, you get emotionally drained from all the toxic thought backwash and this sends you packing for “other” food that will help you to feel better or give you much needed energy to finish out your day.

So, you can begin anew tomorrow.

Do you see the cycle?

One of the health models I coach my clients is the Energy Gainer and Drainer activity.

From this activity, you will get a clear picture of what excites you and what is pulling much needed energy from you.

The relationship, or rather, HOW a person does food, is typically at the top of the list. One of the top reasons women come to work with me is because they want to stop thinking about food all the time.

Once you commit to a diet, there are 2 things you can bet on, 1) you will think about food ALL the time, 2) if you lose the weight you want…it is going to come back.

You may be thinking…  “that is an awful thing to say.”

Yes…. but a true one.

Studies show that only 2% of those that go on a diet to lose weight keep the weight off after 2 years. AFTER 2 years.

Take a deep breath and recall the reason you want to lose weight.

Is it because you want to experience this same process again and again?

I don’t think so.

There are several ways to ensure success with weight loss or loving your body. ENERGY, and your management of it, is one of those keys. The human body is given a certain amount of energy each day. Since, energy cannot be created…we can only manage it. Good management leads to much energy to fulfill your goals and dreams.

There are certain foods that will give you energy and some that will take it away. Same goes with every other aspect of your life. Everyone is different, so your list will not be the same as your friends. We are unique and incredibly intelligent beings. Our body knows exactly what will fill us up with energy…we have only to observe and listen.

Here is step #1 for you. Go through this process of Energy Gainer and Drainer Activity and see what comes up for you.

Once you complete this exercise, fill your life with what brings you energy and do what you can to eliminate as much of the energy drainers from your life as possible.   These energy drainers are one of the things that is keeping you from your success. AND the bonus is….this activity is easy to implement.

You will feel lighter just by getting it all on a piece of paper.

Download Energy Journal Here.

I would love to know how it turns out. Please leave your comment below.

love & hugs, Ashly

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